Labor day weekend
2 years, 5 months By Allyson
In: Allyson Hibbard | Children
This whole not hanging out with friends thing is really starting to get on my nerves. Don't get me wrong I like hanging out with family and all, but sometimes it would be nice to hang out with friends on a weekend night with no kids or even with kids!
The sad thing is I don't really know what I can do about it. I mean my God it's been how many years since Matt and Michelle moved to Florida? Yeah, that was the last time I had a social life. And they didn't believe me when I said they were pretty much the only friends I have around here. Lame huh?
Friday we went to Rosetta Stone in Youngstown with Riley and the baby and Thom's mom and her friend Peg, which Riley calls pig cause she can't say Peg. We didn't quite realize that it was a dance club. And oh my the weird and strange people we saw....It was entertaining. The food was awful and the service not so great either. But to be fair they had difficulties with their ticket machine and she seemed to be the only waitress in the whole place!
Saturday we ate at Perkins. I gave some of my peach muffin to Leonard and he loved it.
Sunday we had Chinese food from Main Moon and we also went to the Canfield fair that day so we all got to have our share of slushy drinks, funnel cake and corn dogs followed by a ride on the ferris wheel.
Today I was feeling pretty depressed and Thom tried to make up for it by taking us out to the Cheesecake Factory. I'm not sure exactly where it is, but at some point we were near Akron and Chagrin Falls so I'm guessing its near there. Riley got a piece of cake as big as her head. I got chocolate coconut cheesecake and Thom got strawberry cheesecake. And although it was nice to go to a restaurant we'd only been to once before, we spent A LOT of money (like 80 bucks on dinner) and in the end I was still wishing Matt and Michelle would have been there with us.
I watched a vlog today by a British 20 year old who talked about how Brits were a bit skiddish about talking to blokes they don't know. It would be highly uncommon to just start a casual conversation with someone that you are standing in line with at the grocery store for instance. I think its kind of odd to do that here in some places too but not always.
But I think that with so many people becoming so reliant on the internet rather than actually going out and socially interacting with people that it's starting to effect the social dynamic of people in general. Not just in America but other countries too. And some places that are rural this totally doesn't apply to. But others, like big cities I think it does. In some ways I can see how it applies to my own life. i shy away from phone conversations anymore. I used to have no qualms about talking to people in a social setting and now I do.
I had really been looking forward to Riley's orientation and meeting some of her classmates' parents. But then once we got there and we got to the part that was supposed to be "the social part" I found myself instead sitting at a table with my husband and daughter alone and glued there unwilling to talk to the others who all seemed to already know each other or were just as anti-social as my husband and I and looked as though they might crumble if you said anything to them.
So I was pretty disappointed by that part of the day just as i was pretty disappointed by this weekend and just about every other weekend. They all run together anymore. A lot of the time I feel as though I have to twist Thom's arm to go out because he would rather play wow at home with his online friends. And you know I tried doing this with him for awhile but I can't keep up with the geek lingo to know what in God's name they are discussing! And I found myself just quietly following my husband around and helping out in the fights when requested. The rest of the time when I was on my own, i wasn't really getting to interact with people either because they were too busy hitting on me.
Does anyone else find it this difficult to have relationships with people other than the ones that you went to school with? I mean in 10 years time I made a couple of friends outside of school, but currently I've lost contact with them and no longer hang out with them. I thought that was what was supposed to happen with your high school friends. But that seems to keep happening with all my friends. Although some I reconnected with but then you know they got lives, and married people who got careers that required them to you know move out of Ohio.
And here I am feeling very much like loser because I don't have anyone to go out with besides my own husband and considering I have to beg and he just sits there and plays with his damn iPhone most of the time it's really not very entertaining.
Next weekend we are supposed to be going to Tokyo House with some of his work friends and his boss. I've done this maybe several times now. I have nothing in common with these people and most of the time I'm the only girl there. Hello awkward situation. The first time I pretty much said a whole lot of nothing. The second time I really tried to be social and do conversations with people, but I would start to say something only to be interrupted by someone else and by the time they were done whatever it was that I was going to say didn't seem important enough to mention at that point. The third time I just talked with Thom and played on his iPhone.
They invited me - through facebook, so I guess I'm going. I just have no clue what to talk about and a lot of what they say either deals with the newspaper, bars, or strip clubs. I don't work at the newspaper, I've never really been to a bar because I don't care to drink, and strip clubs? Oh come on!
Severely frustrated,
~Allyson
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